April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. I've written a little bit about this on my personal page, but before the month is over, I wanted to also be sure to address it here, and maybe go a little further into my own personal experience with sexual assault trauma. Sadly, I've had more than one experience with with sexual abuse and countless situations of harassment and/or disrespect, as have far too many of my sisters and brothers on this earth, and most of those have just bee
Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens. – Louise Hay A dear friend of mine made a Facebook post about loving yourself whether you’re raw or made-up or however today, and it struck a real chord with me. She posted a pic of herself after a day of working in the yard, comfy clothes, makeup free, next to one in cute clothes, hair done, makeup on. She was stunning in both pics, and what’s awesome
TW: suicide, suicidal ideation, infidelity Some of you read the post I made a few days ago - the one about my emotional affair and the damage, but ultimate growth, intimacy, and healing, it brought to my marriage. And at the end of it, I promised to address some of the other issues discussed but not emphasized in that blog. Today, I'm going to start that process. It's been 371 days since the last time I felt a danger to myself and my own life. 371 days. That doesn't seem like
It has taken a great deal of bravery and transparency to write what I’ve written here. It’s much easier to just keep hard things private and keep going, letting the world think that I have a perfect marriage – highly idealized – than to open up dark wounds and admit to failings. BUT, it’s in those admissions, and in that sharing, that others can feel safe about their own insecurities, iniquities, and struggles with similar issues. It’s also in that opening up that freedom is
As 2020 winds it way down to a close, so many of us are taking some time to reflect on the year. And it has been a doozy, for sure! I think back over my year, personally, remembering how at the end of 2019, and for the first few weeks of 2020, I was just sure that 2020 would be MY YEAR, in so many ways. The year started out pretty much that way...going the direction I hoped it would, really. Then came February/March, and our beautiful universe started to show us just how litt
“Letting go does not mean losing anything. Instead, it means gaining space for something better.” -LLC Chandra Namaskara, Sanskrit for “moon salutation” or “honoring the moon,” is my very favorite yoga practice, both to do and to teach. It makes sense, I guess, since I’ve had a deep connection to and love of the moon for as long as I can remember. Also, though, I actually feel the moon’s movement from phase to phase during Chandra Namaskara, the powerful new beginning in the
We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are. -Anais Nin Back in my early twenties, I had a boss who would constantly walk around our cubicles reminding us, in a very whiny, annoying voice, “perception is reality, people!” It wasn’t delivered as a positive mantra, but rather a way to keep us in check. That same boss would also say, just as often, “I’ll give you just enough rope to hang yourselves.” Yes, she was a peach. While her salty sayings were always downers in
One of my favorite quotes (even though it's actually a misquote, a sort of mix-up of two quotes by Ernest Hemingway and Leonard Cohen) is "We're all broken. That's how the light gets in." It's such a beautiful, poetic way to describe the human condition, allowing for cracks and flaws and actually transforming them into beauty. It's wonderful and inspiring.
But it can also be an angsty drag.
Sometimes, we can get bogged down in being broken. Do you know what I mean? I feel lik